After our ups and downs, I have a few explanations for the often posed question, “how does that work exactly? And like I said, we’re still figuring some things out.Acceptance is Phase 1 for enjoying a romantic relationship with an asexual partner.He and I now have monthly check-ins to make sure we are both comfortable with our sex life.We talk about his needs, my boundaries, and what is or isn’t working for us.When I realized I was asexual, I was in the relationship I’m currently in, with a cis het man whose feelings, desires, and need for sex are completely different from my own.
His attitude affected other parts of our relationship.
No one tells my partner he needs to see a therapist to do something about his heterosexuality or his desire for sex. ” But people have responded to articles I’ve written about asexuality with, “Wow, that must suck for your boyfriend.” For a while, my boyfriend had a difficult time bringing up his sexual needs because he didn’t want to seem like a jerk.
But therapy has been suggested for me several times. He equated talking about his sexual needs with sexual pressure.
Tradition and custom dictate that he and other officers refer to his rank as simply ' Lieutenant'.
The 'second' would only be mentioned in official communiqués.