Dating a sick person
To understand the game, you need to first know the rules. Now this is a rule that pertains to most people, not just those who are dealing with an illness, but I think that because people who have been sick have dealt with so much sadness and disappointment in their lives, the mere thought of being hurt or sad scares them into running away from relationships and love. Just when things get good, I would rather mess it up myself and leave.I feel like Lupus has taken most good things in my life away, so it is almost like I don’t even want to give it the chance of ruining a relationship.It is easier to end something then to take the next step.How could I possibly attempt a commitment like marriage, when half of America is divorced and many of them don’t even have to deal with an illness on top of regular normal marriage issues?I would start to like someone just before they left for a big trip, or when they were moving half way across the country, because I knew they would have to go and it would be easier to say goodbye and keep in touch, then to break up.I even would start to date people at work, because I always had the excuse of the job to end it.I guess that was my way of hiding it, or protecting myself.
He had the power to control the whole party; if you are both busy then you can’t be singled out for not being around.
It bothered me and I tried to think back to every man that I ever dated or even spent time with, and I didn’t want to continue this apparent pattern.
I finally figured it out, and lovingly, or jokingly (depending on who I am talking to) refer to it as “The Lupus Dating Game”.
I even danced around the room and sang Here Comes the Bride.
Every aspect of my dream wedding was planned out from the flowers, to the church, to the names of the forthcoming children.